Self-doubt can be one of the biggest saboteurs when it come to creating the life that we want for ourselves. If left unchecked, it can leave us feeling unworthy, unhappy and unfulfilled. If that’s not sounding like a place you want to visit anytime soon, then you have to do something to shift your thoughts from coming from a place of doubt and fear to one of confidence and courage.
When we suffer from self-doubt, we struggle to make decisions. I know indecisiveness well. The fear of making the wrong decision used to paralyze me in a lot of situations that truthfully didn’t need that level of caution. I had to learn how to paint a positive picture of the amazing possibilities instead of falling into the habit of worrying about the worst case scenario.
We can use our self-doubt to justify inaction which leads to procrastination. If we can’t get it done right, what’s the point in even getting started, right? Trust me, if you’re looking for an excuse not to do something, you’ll always find it! This is why it’s so important to be clear about the vision you want for your life. Without that clarity you will lack the motivation needed to do the scary stuff regardless of whether or not you’re confident it will work.
Regret is another side-effect of self-doubt. When your doubts are bigger than your desires, you live life with a lot of coulda, woulda, shoulda – but you didn’t. No one’s really interested in hearing about how you could have been living your dream, but chose not to. That’s not motivating or inspiring to anyone (unless you’re really miserable and no one wants to end up like you). Why beat yourself up about all the missed opportunities?
So how do we overcome self-doubt? We have to look at the source of many of the limiting beliefs we have and deal with them at the root. Sometimes we can do the work necessary on our own, other times we need to seek the guidance of professionals. Whatever path you choose, it’s important to do something if you feel like the doubts you have about yourself are stopping you from creating the life you want and deserve.
We have to find a way to believe that we deserve the success we want in life. We have to tell ourselves that our past does not define our present or our future. Most importantly, we have to remember that we’ve had some kind of success in the past. It doesn’t matter if that success was 2 years ago or 20. What’s important is to remember that something amazing happened to you once, and it can happen again! We need to stop worrying about what other people are thinking and focus on what’s important to us.
Doing what it takes to overcome self-doubt isn’t going to happen overnight. It’s going to take work, but the rewards will be worth it. If you’d like some more help in overcoming self-doubt in your own life, sign up for the 10-Day e-course using the form below!