For over a month I’ve been thinking about having a conversation with someone. It’s a sensitive subject, so I was deliberating on how to bring it up in a way that didn’t ruffle any feathers. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, then you’ll know that I admittedly have struggled with anything that could create conflict. I’ve gotten better, but I still prefer to avoid conflict whenever possible, even if it makes me uncomfortable.
It’s funny how we can create something in our minds and make it bigger than it ever will be. I spent weeks trying to figure out how to talk about something, worrying about all the ways the conversation could go wrong. I got tired of working myself about it, and decided to go for it, and just started the talk I’ve been working myself up about.
*Spoiler Alert* The conversation went fine. There was even some laughter.
I share this because I think that it’s important to remind ourselves that our worst case scenarios doesn’t have to be our reality. I think that it’s important to go into the conversation not anticipating a negative response. If you’re having a conversation with someone that’s going to involve a change that is going to affect them, it’s better to approach them with a postive energy, focusing on a positive outcome.
The longer you wait to have a necessary conversation, the more frustrated you’ll become, and you’re the cause of it. Nothing will change if you don’t do anything about it. Remember, if you want something to change and it’s out of your control, you have to adjust the way you approach it. It’s important to focus on the things you do have control over and not become frustrated about things that you can’t do anything about.
If you’ve been hesitating to have an important conversation, stop waiting, and just do it. Get it off your chest and move on. You may not get the reaction you wanted, but at least you’ll have done it. Think about it like ripping off a bandaid; it has to get done at some point. It might sting, but the discomfort you’re feeling won’t last forever. ♥