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RECAP: Facebook Live Chat on Setting Goals and Maintaining Momentum with Sandra Dawes of Embrace Your Destiny. The original 60minute chat disappeared from our Facebook Page, so we created a little recap for those who missed the full live chat.

Posted by Embrace Your Destiny on Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Goal Setting & Maintaining Momentum

May 1, 2017 Sandra Dawes

This is a recap of a Facebook Live I did with Dwania Peele and Canadian Small Business Women. You’ll see that we did an entire hour of recording and the video disappeared 🙁 We still wanted to leave everyone with something, so here’s the recap. If you’re interested in the goal setting handout or learning […]

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In one conversation I had recently, I said to the individual I was talking to that their view on a subject was coming from a place of fear and that fear comes from a lack of understanding. Their response to my comment was that they didn’t want to understand. They were quite clear in stating that they had no interest or desire to understand another perspective. As troubling as it was to hear that, it was the truth.

When we realize and accept that some people will consciously choose not to look at another perspective, we have two choices: spin our wheels in mud trying to convince someone of something they will never entertain or accept that their viewpoint is their viewpoint and keep it moving. I’ll admit that this has been a challenge for me on some subjects more than others. Racism, bigotry and prejudice are non-negotiable for me. I will always speak my mind on these topics, but I won’t argue with anyone convicted in their ignorance.

It’s one thing to not know and be open to understanding. It’s a completely different story when someone chooses not to try to be open to another viewpoint. I enjoy learning. I know I have a lot more to learn about life and I’m open to the wisdom, knowledge and experience of others.

I have gained the most knowledge from learning from the experiences of others. Having debates on topics I thought I knew about and being introduced to a different point of view has contributed to my growth. Personal growth, especially on a spiritual level, is one of my focuses for this year. I have learned a lot over the years, and I know that there is so much more to learn.

Are my viewpoints always right? Absolutely not! I am open to learning and understanding. That’s my choice. I’ve now come to understand and respect that others choose differently and now the challenge is to accept and be okay with it 😉

Creating a workable plan

I started to work on my business plan for 2019 this weekend. It might not seem like the most exciting way to spend a Saturday night, but it was for me 🙂 I’ve mapped out all that I want to do next year and it feels totally do-able!

In my Jump Start Your Year workshop last week, I spoke about the importance of setting goals that inspire and motivate you rather than leave you feeling overwhelmed or frustrated. If the goal seems daunting before you even start, it will be much harder to say committed to it when your faced with challenges or obstacles along the way.

After the success I had using my 90-Day Level Up Journal, I decided to break down my goals into quarterly chunks. I’ve lined up the workshops I want to host, the webinars I want to do as well as product and program releases. I’ve got the outline on my office wall so I don’t lose focus and I’m keeping an open mind, knowing that I will connect with people and gain knowledge that will help me adjust the plan to serve me even better 🙂

Our goals are meant to challenge us to stretch. In order to successfully make them happen, we have to be willing and able to step outside our comfort zone. What we don’t want are goals that intimidate us or leave us unsure of where we would even start.

I think it’s important to set realistic benchmarks that when achieved, push us to do more to bring us closer to realizing our goals. I believe it also helps to create incentives for ourselves for when those benchmarks are reached. Celebrating our accomplishments is important to the pursuit of our goals. It allows us to recognize our progress in a tangible way, giving ourselves credit for the work done so far.

In order to make sure that we’re making the progress we want on our goals, it’s important to check in with ourselves on a consistent basis. When we don’t do this, it can be easy to fall off track or get pulled in a completely different direction that doesn’t serve you at all. Tracking our progress on at least a weekly basis can make the difference between making significant strides and spinning your wheels in mud!

If you’d like some guidance in planning your goals for 2019, I invite you to check out the workbook from my Jump Start Your Year workshop, click here to get it for just $17 with the coupon code JUMPSTART until the end of December. Let’s make 2019 our best year yet!

You own your time!

I was watching a show on the weekend where Harry Belafonte was being interviewed. He was being asked for advice on how to be a social activist today. Of course, Mr. Belafonte has had a lot of experience as a social activist from his work during the civil rights movement to fighting apartheid in South Africa. The person who was speaking with him thanked his and he said something that has stuck with me – he said the pleasure was his and that time is the only thing can give anyone since it’s the only thing he truly owns.

I believe that’s a powerful statement. Do you feel like you own your time or do you feel like someone else has control over it. I know that my greatest points of frustration were times when I felt like my time wasn’t my own. I wasn’t consciously choosing where my time was spent. I was doing things that other people wanted me to do, or things I thought they wanted me to do without considering whether it was the best use of my time. By the time I figured out it wasn’t time well spent, I had already too far gone.

When I’m at my most fulfilled, I’m doing the things that are important to me. They’re either things that bring me joy, or things that are going to bring me closer to achieving my goals. The sweetest spot, is when the things that I’m doing that help me get closer to my goals are things that I enjoy J

I believe there are three things you need to do in order to really own your time:

  1. Get clear on the mission and vision for your life
  2. Know what your priorities are and why they are important to you
  3. Set boundaries based on your priorities

When you have these three points covered, you have clarity on the activities that are a good use of your time. You know what to say yes to and what to say no to. You reduce feelings of frustration and overwhelm which has a positive ripple effect on your relationships!

Regardless of how much control you feel you have over your time right now, the good news is that things can always change for the better. You want to take back control of your time? Get comfortable saying no. Create a plan for how you want your day to go and be mindful of interruptions and distractions. Ask for help.

Want some help getting started? Schedule a 30-minute complimentary, no obligation call with me today!

Doing things differently

Today is the 14 year anniversary of my father’s death. If you’re new to my blog this might not mean much. If you’ve been around for a while, you know that I’m an unapologetic Daddy’s Girl and his death is what started the journey that I’m on today.

In the past this has been a melancholy day for me. I tend to isolate myself, thinking about the day it happened, reminiscing about good times spent with him, and feeling very sad. This year, I decided to change things up a bit.

If you knew my dad, you knew that he didn’t make excuses not to show up. Even when he was doing radiation the first time around, he went to work every day for the first 4 weeks, doing half-day shifts and then driving to the subway to go to his appointment.

So today, instead of throwing myself a mini-pity party I’ve chosen to honour my father’s memory by doing what he would do – which is do the things that make me happy and allow me to be of service to others. He’s probably watching me and wondering why it took me so long to figure it out 😉

I don’t know if there will ever be a time where I don’t miss my dad. He was such a huge part of my life for a long time. I’ve come a long way in the grieving process. I have good days and bad days. I will be forever grateful for the time I had with him, and even though I would have liked more, I have come to accept that everything happens for a reason.

A couple of week’s ago I talked about breaking cycles and I’ve decided to practice what I preach. Sitting at home, taking a day out to feel sorry for myself has stopped serving me. I’m not getting anything positive from doing it. There was a time where I felt I needed to take that day, and that time has passed.

Instead, I’m choosing to honour my dad’s memory in a different way. I’m going to dedicate everything I do today to him. I’m going to keep on truckin’ like one of his belt buckles used to say, confident that he’s cheering me on. ♥

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