Posts Tagged ‘achieving goals’

You own your time!

I was watching a show on the weekend where Harry Belafonte was being interviewed. He was being asked for advice on how to be a social activist today. Of course, Mr. Belafonte has had a lot of experience as a social activist from his work during the civil rights movement to fighting apartheid in South Africa. The person who was speaking with him thanked his and he said something that has stuck with me – he said the pleasure was his and that time is the only thing can give anyone since it’s the only thing he truly owns.

I believe that’s a powerful statement. Do you feel like you own your time or do you feel like someone else has control over it. I know that my greatest points of frustration were times when I felt like my time wasn’t my own. I wasn’t consciously choosing where my time was spent. I was doing things that other people wanted me to do, or things I thought they wanted me to do without considering whether it was the best use of my time. By the time I figured out it wasn’t time well spent, I had already too far gone.

When I’m at my most fulfilled, I’m doing the things that are important to me. They’re either things that bring me joy, or things that are going to bring me closer to achieving my goals. The sweetest spot, is when the things that I’m doing that help me get closer to my goals are things that I enjoy J

I believe there are three things you need to do in order to really own your time:

  1. Get clear on the mission and vision for your life
  2. Know what your priorities are and why they are important to you
  3. Set boundaries based on your priorities

When you have these three points covered, you have clarity on the activities that are a good use of your time. You know what to say yes to and what to say no to. You reduce feelings of frustration and overwhelm which has a positive ripple effect on your relationships!

Regardless of how much control you feel you have over your time right now, the good news is that things can always change for the better. You want to take back control of your time? Get comfortable saying no. Create a plan for how you want your day to go and be mindful of interruptions and distractions. Ask for help.

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Fourth Quarter Check-In

Just like that, we’re in the final quarter of 2018! While you may be asking where the time went, now is the time to review what you accomplished in the first 3 quarters of the year.  If you didn’t achieve all that you wanted to personally or professionally, the first thing to remember is that it’s not too late to finish the year off with a bang.  The second thing to do is make a commitment to making next year more productive than this one!

From my personal experience, I know that if I don’t write my goals down (and review them regularly), they don’t get done.  I also know that when I when I have a plan in place to make the goals happen, they actually do, even if they didn’t go exactly according to plan.  Achieving your goals is about going beyond “wishful thinking”.  Don’t hope your goals become a reality, create a plan and take action and make your goals a reality!

If this year wasn’t as successful as you had wanted it to be, now’s the time to review what worked and what didn’t.  You may need to make some minor adjustments, or you may need a complete overhaul.  Whatever it is that you need to do to get better results next year, setting the foundation now can only work to your benefit.  When January comes around, you will not only be able to hit the ground running, but you’ll also have things in place that will allow you to maintain momentum and commitment through challenging times.

Reviewing what didn’t work and tweaking the plan isn’t meant to be a self-deprecating exercise.  It doesn’t make sense to beat ourselves up about things that have already happened that can’t be undone.  When we know better, we do better, and that’s the approach that we must take when it comes to our goals. There is a wealth of information out there that can help you to gain the clarity you need and access the resources required to achieve your goals.  We just have to be willing to ask for help and remain open-minded about the possibilities that exist that can take us where we want to go in all areas of our life, business or pleasure.

Where do you want to be personally and professionally a year from today?  Once you have clarity on this you can start to develop the plan to make it happen.  Not everything is going to go according to plan, but you will have a guide that will help you to figure out whether you’re getting closer to or further away from your goals.  Wishing you much success in the final quarter of 2018!

 

It’s time to get out of your head!

If you struggle with overthinking things, know that you’re not alone. We all have moments when we know what we want to do, but for some reason we can’t bring ourselves to do it. Our lack of certainty that things will work out the way that we want them to can leave us feeling stuck.

Analysis paralysis leaves us frustrated and overwhelmed when we know what life can be life if we actually take action. Instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong and spending all of your time believing that it will happen, we have to focus on what could go right! You have to find a way to acknowledge the fear your feeling and take a leap of faith in spite of it.

Let’s be honest here, overthinking things leads to missed opportunities. You can miss out on a break that could lead you closer to your making your dreams a reality because you can’t get out of your head. There’s nothing worse than missed opportunities. Regretting not taking action after the chance has come and gone is a waste of time.

Instead of kicking yourself for missing out on something that would have helped you to realize your dreams, become more present. Rather than worrying about what could go wrong, focus on what you want to achieve and stay open to the possibilities that can get you where you want to go. An open mind and a positive attitude will make the journey to achieving your goals a lot more enjoyable. Focus on the things you want to happen and stop worrying about the chances of something going wrong.

As a recovering control freak, I can tell you with confidence that things are not going to always go the way you want them to, so stop fretting that stuff is going to hit the fan. At some point or another it will and there’s nothing that we can do about it. What we can do is control how we allow those let downs to affect us. Are we going to use them as proof that our dreams are impossible, or are we going to take it as a challenge and stay committed to the goal?

Nothing great was ever achieved overthinking the things we should do. At some point we have to take action. There are going to be no guarantees that things will work out the way we want them to, or even if they’ll work out the way they have in the past. We have to be willing to take that risk if we want to truly see what’s possible in our lives.

Once we’re clear on what we want, we have to be ready to take action. Is a plan useful? Of course it is. Creating a plan is part of taking action, but it can’t stop there. Stop worrying about the negative “what if’s” you’ve conjured up in your mind. Your time is better spent thinking about all the things that could go well. Focus on what you want and have faith that you’ll find a way to get there. Add an open mind and a positive mindset and watch the possibilities start to reveal themselves! ♥

If you need some help dealing with overthinking, join me for my 6 week Get Out of Your Head bootcamp designed to do just that! We start on Tuesday September 26. For more information and to save your spot, visit http://bit.ly/eydgoalsbootcamp.

Time to get serious about your goals

We’re heading into the second half of the year. They say time flies when you’re having fun – to be honest I think it goes by quickly whether you’re enjoying it or not! It may be tempting to think that if you haven’t done anything with your goals by now, there’s no point in getting started now. The good news is that it’s never too late to start working on your goals if you’re really committed to making them happen.

Here’s the thing to ask yourself: “if not now, then when?” What are you waiting for to get started? It’s time to get really honest with yourself. How long has this goal been on your “wish list”? How long have you been talking about doing something about this goal without actually taking action? How many excuses have you made for why you can’t do something, anything that will help you get closer to realizing your dreams?

People often laugh when I introduce myself as a recovering control freak and excuse maker. Many have admitted it’s because they can relate. Take it from me, I know all about excuses and overthinking the hell out of ideas and opportunities. Believe me when I say, this doesn’t serve us in any way and doesn’t inspire the action necessary to make our goals a reality.  Let’s be honest about the issue of overthinking – it’s caused by a lack of faith and a lack of clarity about what we really want and why we really want it.

If you don’t want to be in the same spot next year, lamenting about what you said you’d do and still haven’t done yet, it’s time to get serious about your goals. If you know what you want, do you have a plan to get you there? If have a plan but haven’t taken action on it, what are you waiting for? Let go of the need for everything to be perfect. If you’re trying something new, the only person who will know it’s not perfect is you! Don’t worry about the critics and naysayers; most of them have unfulfilled dreams and regrets of their own to deal with. Don’t let them distract you from your goal.

I think the most important thing to remember is that we don’t have to wait for everything to be perfect; we just have to get started. Even when things may appear perfect, it doesn’t take long before we find areas that can be improved. Remember that everything we do is a work in progress. The key is to identify the lessons along the way and focus on consistent growth.

It’s not too late to make your goals a reality in 2016; you just have to want it bad enough! You don’t have to get it all done tomorrow, you just have to create a plan and take daily action towards its achievement. No more excuses and no more distractions. It’s time to get serious. Are you ready? ♥

Are you ready to make 2016 your best year yet?

We’re only a few days away from the end of 2015 and the start of a new year. A New Year always brings with it the EYD 2016 best year yet blog imagepromise of a fresh start, a new beginning. Whether you make New Year’s resolutions, set intentions or make promises to do things differently in 2016, how are you going to make sure these things happen?

How many of us start of the New Year excited about the possibilities and then find ourselves back in our old routine before the end of February? Sometimes we establish goals that we think we should achieve, but don’t really hold any significance for us. If our goals don’t excite us, if achieving them isn’t going to impact our lives in meaningful ways, we lose steam.

Think about what you really want to achieve in 2016. Ask yourself what would need to happen in the next 12 months to make the year a success? When you know where you want to be in a year, you can start thinking about what you need to do to get you there. When achieving the goal will bring significant change or impact your life in a meaningful way, it is easier to commit to the goal, regardless of what happens.

Understanding your motivation for pursuing your goals is important. We hear so much about “knowing your why” and there is a reason for this. When you understand your motivation, keeping it in mind on a daily basis, helps us to take consistent action towards our goals. Consistently taking action is the only way to make substantial gains. If you only take action when you feel like it, or when it’s easy you won’t make the progress you’re likely looking for. You don’t have to get it all done in a day, just think about 1 or 2 things you can do each day to bring you closer to your goals.

Big goals, the ones that really matter, don’t happen overnight. Be persistent; don’t let the obstacles discourage you from pursuing your dreams. 2016 can be the best year you’ve ever experienced, but it isn’t going to happen magically. You have to be willing to commit to your goals, and ready to take decisive action on a daily basis if you want to celebrate big accomplishments. Don’t let challenges and obstacles diminish your focus. Recognize them as a sign to look for alternate routes to get you to the achievement of your goals.

Wishing you a healthy, happy, abundant and prosperous New Year! ♥

Staying motivated in 2015

As we head into the first full week of the New Year, I know that this is a time where many of us are getting ready to become-obssesedestablish new habits in different areas of our lives. The start of a New Year provides us with a clean slate, a reason to implement new routines and let go of those that no longer serve us. While we might be riled up and ready to go in the first week of the year, how do we keep that momentum going into week 26 and all the way to week 52?

If we want to stay committed to our goals there are a few things we need to do:

  1. Avoid goal overwhelm

    While your goal may be big, it shouldn’t feel impossible. Break it down into small, manageable chunks. Create incentives. Do one thing each day that will take you closer to achieving your goal.

  1. Bounce back from bad days

    There are going to be things that don’t work out as planned, technical difficulties and bad weather. Don’t let these obstacles get you down for too long, dust yourself off and try again.

  2. Stay away from naysayers and emotional vampires

    We don’t need others to question our goals, we can do that on our own 😉 The same goes for people who take a lot of your time with their emotional drama. There’s nothing wrong with being supportive, just make sure you don’t spend too much time on everyone else’s life and not enough dealing with your own stuff.

  3. Focus, focus, focus…

    It’s so easy to get distracted by everything going on around us. Keep your eye on the prize (or goal) and allow yourself to be open to all of the amazing opportunities that are just waiting for us to take advantage of. Less Real Housewives, more real life action!

  1. Take action!

    Take persistent action towards the achievement of your goal. Yes, there are going to be days that you don’t want to get out of bed. Being committed to your goals means doing what you need to do whether you feel like it or not. Be patient – it’s not going to happen overnight, but your persistence will be rewarded!

It is possible to stay motivated throughout the year. It just takes the right mindset, a clear goal and a plan to make it happen.  Add the tips above and you’re on your way to making 2015 your best year yet. ♥

Putting the plan into action

This is the fifth and final post in the 5 Keys to Making Your Goals a Reality blog series. I figured it would be Put-Your-Plan-Into-Actionworthwhile to recap the first four keys:

  1. Clarity on your goals
  2. Silencing the peanut gallery
  3. Having faith
  4. Creating a plan

The fifth key is all about putting the plan into action. This can be the scariest part of the journey to achieving your goals! It means that we stop talking about what we’re going to do (or looking for excuses why we can’t or shouldn’t) and just do it. I know from personal experience that this is where fear can really start to creep in. We start to worry about all the things that could go wrong, or what people think of us will should we fail.

We have to find a way to do as Susan Jeffers talk about in her book and Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway! Fear is a paralyzing force. If we allow it to, it can keep us stuck in situations that no longer serve us because we don’t want change. The truth of the matter is that we will continue to get the same results if we always do things the same way. If you’ve had lots of goals in the past that you’ve never taken to this action stage, then maybe the New Year is the time to try doing things differently!

Taking action on your goals is the only way that they’re ever going to become a reality. Sitting at home watching TV isn’t going to magically melt the weight off. Working on a resume that you don’t actually send out to potential employers isn’t going to get you the job. Whatever it is you want, you need to take action to get it.

Taking action on your goals is the most important of the 5 keys. You can do all the planning and mindset work that you want, but if you aren’t willing and able to put the plan into action, then it was all for nothing. If you need encouragement, find an accountability partner, hire a coach, whatever is going to help you stay on track and keep you motivated.

Don’t get stuck in the trap of waiting for the perfect moment or the right star alignment. If you want to make your goals a reality, the best time to start working on that is now. I’m looking forward to a phenomenal New Year and I wish the same for you and yours as well. ♥

Time to put an end to drifting

A colleague of mine told me about Napoleon Hill’s book Unwitting the Devil months ago, and a few weeks ago finally boughtquote-every-day-you-spend-drifting-away-from-your-goals-is-a-waste-not-only-of-that-day-but-also-of-the-ralph-marston-120367 it.  I started reading it on Monday, and I’m already half way through it. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly suggest it. I admire Napoleon Hill’s ability to share his wisdom in such a timeless manner.  If you’re read Think and Grow Rich you know what I mean!

In Unwitting the Devil, the concept of the drifter is discussed, and it made me wonder how many of us are willing to admit that we’re drifting through life? In the book, a drifter is defined as someone who has a “total lack of a major purpose in life.” It goes through a list of the many characteristics of a drifter, including eating too much with little exercise, never finishing what you start, indecisiveness, judgement and laziness. A drifter is someone who goes through life passively, being controlled by life’s events rather than taking control of his/her life.

I think that we all have had moments of drifting. I know that after my father died, my drifting became more obvious and more uncomfortable. It was in the years afterwards that I finally began to take control of my life; making a plan, taking responsibility and taking action. There are moments when things become challenging, that it is tempting to revert back to drifting, to feeling sorry for myself and that nothing I do matters anyway. The drifting doesn’t last long though. It doesn’t even feel right. If it doesn’t feel good, I’ve learned that you have to keep going until you find a state of mind you feel good about.

In the book, there would appear that there is a point of no return in drifting. That you can drift for so long that there’s no coming back from it. That’s a worrisome thought. To think that some of us will be condemned to live a life of drifting saddens me. It also empowers me with the will to ensure that this isn’t my fate. I believe that I have a purpose, a gift that I was meant to share with the rest of the world.

If you’re still not sure about what your purpose is, I can help! If you already know what you were put here to do, then tell me how I can support you in sharing your gift with the world. I feel like it’s our duty to help one another and nip drifting in the bud before it is too late! Are you up to joining this challenge with me? ♥

Consistent Effort

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from reading the stories of successful people and personal experience, it’s that consistent effort pays off everyconsistencey time.  If you want to make something happen, it’s going to take daily effort.  It’s not something that you do when you feel like it, or when you have time.  You do things every day that are going to get you closer to reaching that goal.

I’m not saying that you can’t take a break.  I’m a big supporter of self-care and understand the importance of resting mind, body and soul.  I do believe that success in achieving your goals takes a certain level of commitment that differentiates between recharging and simply “not feeling like it”.  We have to make the time to do the things that are important to us.  We are all working with the same number of hours in the day; it’s what we do with them that make the difference!

Consistent effort is a mix of persistence, focus, drive, determination and commitment.  It’s almost a magical recipe for success!  When you combine all of these qualities and values, and use them towards the achievement of a specific goal, you can’t help but reach it.  It isn’t about luck or knowing the “right people”.  Lots of people have great connections and are presented with a multitude of opportunities that would help them to make their goals a reality and yet for some reason they still struggle.

Hard work pays off, of that there can be no question.  It can be hard to be patient when you want something badly, but it will be worth the wait, regardless of how frustrating it might feel right now.  Think about all the stories you’ve heard of successful people who were on the verge of giving up on their dreams, and it was just at that moment that the opportunity that would turn their careers around would present itself.  We all have that moment when we question whether or not we have the willpower and stamina to persevere during difficult times.

It’s these difficult times that challenge our commitment to the goal.  If we want it bad enough, we don’t give up.  We’re patient and we continue to do something every day that is going to contribute to the achievement of our goals.  It’s not going to happen overnight, but it isn’t going to happen at all if you aren’t committed to making a consistent effort. ♥

3 tips to avoiding the drama and staying focused on your goals

You’ve got a deadline and there’s a lot to do to make sure you meet it.  It’s just as you near the finish line that the proverbial stuff drama-does-not-just-walk-into-your-lifehits the fan and you’re wondering how you’ve ended up in the middle of what feels like the perfect storm!  While it can be easy to get sidetracked by the craziness of life, I thought I’d look at some ways to avoid (or limit) the drama, so that you can refocus on the goals you’ve set out to achieve.  By no means is this an extensive list!

  1. Stop taking things personally

    If you’ve read my book Embrace Your Destiny: 12 Steps to Living the Life You Deserve, then you know that I dedicated an entire chapter to not taking things personally!  It’s been one of my biggest and most valuable lessons.  We’ve all got personal issues that we’re dealing with.  As much as we often forget it, the world does not revolve around us.  People actions and words are not determined by how you will react to them.  Once you understand this, you don’t get offended as often and no longer assume that people are doing things or acting a certain way just to get a rise out of you.

  2. Separate the people from the problem (or solution)

    This one comes from a book I read years ago titled Getting to Yes!  It’s harder to find a resolution to the problem when you have issues with the people involved.  I’m sure that we’ve all had to work with personalities that were challenging for us.  If we don’t find a way to move beyond perceived character flaws and focus on resolving the issue, we aren’t going to get very far.  We’re not going to love everyone that we have to deal with personally or professionally, but we ought to find a way to come from a place of respect no matter what!

  3. Take responsibility

    This is another big one.  It can be easy to put the blame on others for things that don’t work out the way that we want them to.  If we want to move forward and achieve personal growth and awareness, we have to take responsibility to for our part in our present circumstances.  Everything is about choice.  Even when you feel that you don’t have a choice, you’re the one that choosing to limit your perspective.  When you take responsibility for the state of your life, you can do something about the areas of your life that aren’t
    working for you.

The challenges and obstacles that arise when you’re pursuing your goals are inevitable.  Whether or not it affects the level of success you’re going to achieve, is completely up to you!  Of course, when you want something bad enough and you’re putting your blood, sweat and tears into it, the smallest things can appear as giant mountains in the path to the achievement of your goals.  Stay focused, breathe, and remind yourself of why your goal is so important to you.  Stay committed no matter what.  If there’s one thing that I’ve learned, it’s that persistence pays off and when you look back in 5 years, these bumps in the road will be nothing but a distant memory. ♥