Posts Tagged ‘success’

You own your time!

I was watching a show on the weekend where Harry Belafonte was being interviewed. He was being asked for advice on how to be a social activist today. Of course, Mr. Belafonte has had a lot of experience as a social activist from his work during the civil rights movement to fighting apartheid in South Africa. The person who was speaking with him thanked his and he said something that has stuck with me – he said the pleasure was his and that time is the only thing can give anyone since it’s the only thing he truly owns.

I believe that’s a powerful statement. Do you feel like you own your time or do you feel like someone else has control over it. I know that my greatest points of frustration were times when I felt like my time wasn’t my own. I wasn’t consciously choosing where my time was spent. I was doing things that other people wanted me to do, or things I thought they wanted me to do without considering whether it was the best use of my time. By the time I figured out it wasn’t time well spent, I had already too far gone.

When I’m at my most fulfilled, I’m doing the things that are important to me. They’re either things that bring me joy, or things that are going to bring me closer to achieving my goals. The sweetest spot, is when the things that I’m doing that help me get closer to my goals are things that I enjoy J

I believe there are three things you need to do in order to really own your time:

  1. Get clear on the mission and vision for your life
  2. Know what your priorities are and why they are important to you
  3. Set boundaries based on your priorities

When you have these three points covered, you have clarity on the activities that are a good use of your time. You know what to say yes to and what to say no to. You reduce feelings of frustration and overwhelm which has a positive ripple effect on your relationships!

Regardless of how much control you feel you have over your time right now, the good news is that things can always change for the better. You want to take back control of your time? Get comfortable saying no. Create a plan for how you want your day to go and be mindful of interruptions and distractions. Ask for help.

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Time to get real

Okay, we’ve got less than two months left in 2018. It’s time to get real because there are goals that you set for yourself at the start of the year and it’s never too late to check on the progress you’ve made. I know that there were probably some rough patches and things you wish you had done better. The question is, what can you do differently in the next two months to get the results you want?

It’s time to be as honest with yourself as possible. What habits are working for you and which ones are working against you? Most of us don’t have to think too hard to figure out the answers. Knowing what we need to change is one thing. Doing something about it is a completely different matter.

We face this challenge whether our goals are personal or professional. We need to take time out to analyze what’s working and what isn’t working. If you’re spending a lot of time on your goals and not getting the results you want, then it is time to rethink the strategy. Either you need to hire out for the things that aren’t in your wheelhouse, or you need to take a course to gain the skills and knowledge to do those things in an effective and efficient way!

I know that tracking our progress is something that many of us avoid. We don’t want to face the reality that we’re not on track to make our goals a reality. If you’re fearful to take a look at your progress, you already have an idea that you’re not where you want to be. The opposite could be true as well though; you could be closer to realizing your goals than you think. You’ll never know for sure until you take the time to see where you really are.

Even if you realize that you’re not as close as you wanted to be to achieving your goals, the good news is that there’s still time! You have just under 2 months to make significant things happen. All you need is clarity on the vision, focus on the things you need to do to get you there and a willingness to take daily action to get you there.

What you have or haven’t accomplished in the last ten months doesn’t have to determine your success in 2018. You can do anything you put your mind to! What are you choosing to focus on accomplishing in the next 2 months? I look forward to celebrating your successes in December, as we head into a new year get ready to see what else is possible! ♥

Fourth Quarter Check-In

Just like that, we’re in the final quarter of 2018! While you may be asking where the time went, now is the time to review what you accomplished in the first 3 quarters of the year.  If you didn’t achieve all that you wanted to personally or professionally, the first thing to remember is that it’s not too late to finish the year off with a bang.  The second thing to do is make a commitment to making next year more productive than this one!

From my personal experience, I know that if I don’t write my goals down (and review them regularly), they don’t get done.  I also know that when I when I have a plan in place to make the goals happen, they actually do, even if they didn’t go exactly according to plan.  Achieving your goals is about going beyond “wishful thinking”.  Don’t hope your goals become a reality, create a plan and take action and make your goals a reality!

If this year wasn’t as successful as you had wanted it to be, now’s the time to review what worked and what didn’t.  You may need to make some minor adjustments, or you may need a complete overhaul.  Whatever it is that you need to do to get better results next year, setting the foundation now can only work to your benefit.  When January comes around, you will not only be able to hit the ground running, but you’ll also have things in place that will allow you to maintain momentum and commitment through challenging times.

Reviewing what didn’t work and tweaking the plan isn’t meant to be a self-deprecating exercise.  It doesn’t make sense to beat ourselves up about things that have already happened that can’t be undone.  When we know better, we do better, and that’s the approach that we must take when it comes to our goals. There is a wealth of information out there that can help you to gain the clarity you need and access the resources required to achieve your goals.  We just have to be willing to ask for help and remain open-minded about the possibilities that exist that can take us where we want to go in all areas of our life, business or pleasure.

Where do you want to be personally and professionally a year from today?  Once you have clarity on this you can start to develop the plan to make it happen.  Not everything is going to go according to plan, but you will have a guide that will help you to figure out whether you’re getting closer to or further away from your goals.  Wishing you much success in the final quarter of 2018!

 

The company you keep

Have you ever heard that saying, “show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are?” It’s one of those saying that I used to think was just a cliché, but now as I get older, I see the truth in it. I see it not only in my own life, but in the lives of others.

We all have friends that fall into different groups. We go to each of them for different reasons. We have the friends we go to when we need support, others we go to when we want to goof off and have fun. Some, we admire for the things that they are doing and are inspired by them.

If you’re lacking friends in that last category, then it’s time to evaluate your circle. I’m not saying that the friends you have aren’t good enough. What I am saying is that the quote above refers to your friends being a reflection on you. If you don’t have friends that are clear on what they want for their life and doing it, then what does that say about you?

This isn’t meant to be a negative post. The intention isn’t for you to beat yourself up about where you are right now – it’s to create awareness. If there’s something inside you that’s telling you that you want more for your life, what are you doing about it? Where are you going to find the support system to make it happen?

If you are working towards something and feel like your current circle don’t get it, or don’t support you, then it’s time to expand your circle. If you’re trying to develop new habits and a new mindset and your friends are doing things to keep you where you are right now, then it’s time to evaluate your friends.

This may sound a bit harsh, but it’s the reality. I’m now saying that you have to cut people off, but you may have to limit your exposure to the people who aren’t supporting you in taking your life to the next level. When it comes to making significant changes in our lives, we need help. We need a strong support system. If you don’t have that right now, then it’s something you need to create for yourself.

I’m grateful for the support system that I have established since starting my entrepreneurial journey. Have I lost friends along the way? Absolutely. The crazy thing is you don’t often know who will stand by you in the end. The friendships you once thought were unbreakable may be the very ones that end.

Remember that everything happens for a reason and not everyone in your life is meant to be with you for a lifetime. ♥

 

The purpose of planning

I wasn’t always a planner. I think for the first 20 years of my life, most of the important decisions had been made for me. That might be why I was so lost in my final year of university when people would ask me what my plans were after graduation. I figured I’d get a job. What exactly I’d be doing, I hadn’t given much thought to.

I think that because so much of my life was planned for such a long time, I actually dismissed planning as something that I should worry about. I figured as long as I was doing my duty, working a job and paying the bills, I’d be alright.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that flying by the seat of my pants was not something that I was okay with. I needed to be working towards something, not just working. I started off setting financial goals – pay off my student loans. After that was achieved, I decided that if I was going to get where I wanted to be professionally, then I had to go back to school and get my Masters degree, so I worked towards achieving that.

After getting my second degree, I thought I would be happy. I thought that I could just set my life on cruise control and everything would be great! I was wrong. It took chronic unhappiness with my career and my father passing away for me to realize that I needed to get back in the driver’s seat of my life.

When I have a goal, I work to make it happen. It’s when I delude myself into thinking that there’s no more left to do that I get restless and bored. Those feelings of being unfulfilled can be haunting. You know something is missing, but you’re not sure what. You look back at what you’ve achieved and tell yourself you should be grateful for where you’re at. The problem is, you want more.

That’s what I’ve come to realize, that the work is never done. It’s part of the journey. We get to make our dreams a reality if we choose to. We get to ask ourselves every day, what else is possible? We have the opportunity to test our limits and go beyond them.

It all starts with a plan though doesn’t it? We might not have all the steps figured out, and that’s okay! It’s about making a conscious effort to decide what we’re going to do on a daily basis that will bring us that fulfillment we’re looking for.

Without a plan, we don’t know where to start, or what we should be doing. Our plan drives our action. If we don’t take action, then just like the quote in the image says, our goals remain simple wishes. If you’re okay with that, then don’t worry about figuring out the plan!

If you do want to see if you can make your goals a reality, then you have to make the time to create the plan to make it happen. Remember, this is designed to guide you. As you take action, meet people and learn more, your plan will get adjusted and that’s okay. Stay focused on the goal and have faith that the right path for you to get there will reveal itself.

Plans take time and goals require effort. Don’t focus on how long it will take you to achieve your goals or the hard work that will be required of you. Focus on why you chose the goal in the first place. Remember that time is going to go by regardless of what you choose to do. Think about what else will be possible once that goal becomes a reality!

Are you ready to get planning? ♥

Multitasking is overrated

I used to be proud of my ability to multitask. I could be on the phone, respond to emails and maybe even have the TV going on in the background as well. I thought that focusing on one thing at a time was the most ineffective way to work. I now know better and even though I still catch myself trying to do too much at the same time, I know that it isn’t how I do my best work.

Laser focus is the way to get things done, if you want to get it done right the first time. When I try to do too much at once, something always suffers. I know that when I’m on the phone and trying to do other things, I’m not giving the work I’m doing or the conversation I’m having my full attention.

Have you ever been trying to have a conversation with someone while their focus is occupied by their phone or tablet? My partner’s focus is so terrible, that I have confessed to some of the most ridiculous things to get a reaction and just gotten a simple uh-huh, if any reaction at all! While that’s been fun, it can be frustrating when you’re trying to get someone’s attention to talk about something serious and you know that they’re focus is somewhere else.

Focusing on one was the key to me completing the first draft of my book in 6 weeks. I didn’t do any client calls. To be honest, I don’t even think I did much, if anything on social media at that time! I was 100% focused on the goal of getting the first draft done by the end of August because my publisher told me that would guarantee that I would have the book in my hand before the holiday. My goal was to write 4 pages a day. Some days I surpassed that goal, and other days I sat staring at my laptop screen. Regardless of whether I met that target every day, it was always the intention that I started my day with. The end result? First draft done by the end of August and physical books delivered to my home by the first week of November.

That was the first time I realized the power of focusing on one thing at a time. I had been talking about writing a book for 3 years. I even tried doing a 60 day writers challenge and got 130 plus pages completed, but couldn’t find a way to finish it. I was able to get the work done in 6 weeks because I had quit my job and had no excuses to not get it done. Not only did I finally have the time, but I was 100% committed to making my dream of being a published author a reality.

I know that quitting your job isn’t an option for everyone when it comes to freeing up your time to focus on your goals. I do believe that we have to put time aside for our goals if we want to make them a reality. Forget trying to do too much at once! If you don’t focus your time and energy, you’re not going to get the results you want and just be left frustrated and annoyed.

Let go of the need to multitask and try laser focus instead. Give it a try for a week and see what happens. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments! ♥

One bite at a time

There’s the riddle that asks, how do you eat an elephant? The answer is one bite at a time. I think this is the same approach that we have to have when it comes to our goals. If you’ve ever worked on achieving a huge goal, you know that it doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, having the expectation that it will be easy or quick can be maddening when you realize that it’s not going to happen!

If you’re read my posts or heard me talk about goals before, you know that I’m an advocate for breaking goals down into manageable chunks and focusing on those. Think about what will feel more manageable to you – saving $5,000 this year or saving $105 a month? Sure that $100 might be a stretch, but probably feels a lot more doable than focusing on the final goal on a consistent basis.

Think about how much easier things would be if you broke your 90 day goals into 15 day chunks. What would you need to do in the next 2 weeks to help you get closer to the achievement of your goal? If saving a certain amount of money is your focus, then maybe it’s bringing your lunch to work or skipping that morning coffee shop visit. If shedding pounds is your focus, then maybe it’s setting up an exercise schedule for the next two weeks and setting a meal plan that works for you.

A lot of times we think about our goals but we don’t have a plan in place to make it happen. We think that one day we’ll get started, or we’re waiting for that elusive “perfect moment” to get to work. The truth of the matter is that if we want to achieve our goals, we have to get started today. There will always be a reason to not take action. If you keep making excuses for why you can’t or shouldn’t get started, then you have to ask yourself how important your goals are to you.

You don’t have to make big moves towards your goals immediately. Maybe you only save $25 or $50 the first week. Maybe you do a 20 minute workout your first time at the gym. You don’t have to start big, you just have to start! Once you do, you’ll be so glad you did. You’ll realize that it isn’t as hard as you thought it would be and you’ll be inspired and motivated to push yourself to do more.

What small step will you take today to bring you closer to realizing your dreams? ♥

Doing the hard work

Let’s face it – most of us know what we need to do to get closer to the achievement of our goals. It isn’t a lack of time that prevents us from doing those things; it’s a simple lack of commitment. I’ve talked about commitment before, and this probably won’t be the last time I touch on the subject. Hard work isn’t something to run from or avoid. Facing it is a necessity if we want to make our goals a reality!

We avoid the hard work required to make significant progress towards our goals for a number of reasons. Some of these include:

  • We’re comfortably uncomfortable where we are
  • We’re afraid of failure
  • We’re afraid of success
  • Our “why” isn’t big enough
  • We don’t believe we deserve what we’re striving for

Whatever the reason is, we have to recognize that they are all excuses and let them go. If we can’t bring ourselves to letting go of the things that are holding us back, we won’t ever get where we say we want to be! We’ve all wanted something bad enough at some point in our lives that nothing could stop of from getting it. We all know what commitment looks like. The key is to find it and hold onto it as we move forward in achieving future goals.

If the goals you are working towards are ones that you set out for yourself, then it’s time to reflect on why this goal is important to you and what your life is going to look like if you choose not to do anything to achieve it. You have to decide that these goals are important enough for you to do the work necessary to make them happen!

The goals that are most important to us are going to take hard work. If they didn’t require us to work hard, they would be worthwhile goals. There’s nothing like seeing your hard work pay off. Knowing that you pushed yourself beyond what you though were your limits is rewarding. Doing things we once thought were impossible challenges us to think about what else is possible.

There’s nothing more exciting than realizing that we are capable of much more that we once thought. We finally understand what Marianne Williamson was talking about in her book A Return to Love when she says that we are: powerful beyond measure. Don’t allow your excuses to stop you from making your dreams a reality. The work needed to make it happen may be challenging, but you can do it! Remember, if it was easy, everyone would be doing it.

Be inspired and motivated by the work it will take to accomplish your goals, don’t be afraid to do the work. The rewards you receive for doing what it takes will be tenfold. Not only will you have achieved your goal, but the person you’ll become as you take the journey will be stronger in mind, body and soul as well. What are you waiting for? ♥

The answers are within

A couple of weeks ago I had a session with Ruby McGuire. She’s a Visibility Coach. I was fortunate enough to win the session with her after she did a bundle on Visibility with the Female Entrepreneurs Association. I was excited for the session and prepared for an ass-kicking for not doing the things I need to do to get more visibility for myself and in turn, my business.

I confess that the session wasn’t what I expected it to be. Like I said, I was expecting to get a good talking to about why I wasn’t doing the things I knew I should be doing. What I got was even better because it got me to quiet the mental chatter (that seems non-stop at times) and tap into my consciousness so I could get down to the root of the problem.

Yes, I was making excuses for not doing more video. The question that the session allowed me to uncover was the real reason why I was making every excuse under the sun for why I couldn’t do what I knew I needed to do to get the results I want. It had nothing to do with time, or the right equipment. It went much deeper than that.

I won’t bore you with all the gory details 😉 All of this is to say that this session reminded me that we know what’s going on. We know why we aren’t doing the things we want to do. It can be easy to find surface rationale for not doing what needs to get done, but it normally goes a lot deeper. They often come from beliefs that we’ve been holding on to that don’t serve us.

Once we realize the real reason why we aren’t taking the actions needed to bring us closer to the achievement of our goals, we have to decide what we’re going to do about it. It’s important to realize that those beliefs we’ve been holding on to that hold us back aren’t based in fact. We’ve used past experiences as proof that our excuses are justified. We need to remind ourselves that our past good, bad or otherwise doesn’t define us. We can always do something different, something better.

We know the answers. We just need to find a way to tap into them. Sometimes it’s a coach or mentor that helps you get there, other times it’s simply quieting the mind and asking for guidance. How you tap into the answers isn’t as important as connecting with the answers. Continuing to make excuses isn’t going to get you any closer to achieving your goals. It’s just going to cause frustration and disappointment.

If we want different results, we have to do things differently. Are you ready look within for the answers to make that change? ♥

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